We come into the world dependent on others and in diapers. And often we leave the same way. Our lives on earth have stages.
First is learning how to function within society. Searching for approval and validation. We have an absence of independent thought and personal values.
Second would be self-discovery and what makes us different from the people and culture around us. We make major decisions for ourselves, testing ourselves to understand what makes us unique and finding our limits. A series of trial-and-error experiments. Selecting new friends, trying new things, living different places.
Third, now knowing what makes you different and having found your boundaries, it is time to make your mark in the word. Separating from people and friends that are holding you back and draining your emotional energy. Dropping activities and hobbies that are a waste of time. Resetting your dreams because you realize some are not coming true anytime soon. Then you intensify your efforts on what you do best and what is best to you. Foster the most important relationships in your life. Focus on a single mission in life. It is time to maximize your potential and build your legacy.
Finally, the fourth stage of making sure that legacy lasts beyond your death. Your happiness becomes based more on internal values that you control and less on the external ever-changing world around you. Finishing strong.
Ponder the paths of life. Life is supposed to be difficult, it is what enables us to grow.
God’s ultimate goal for your life on earth is not comfort, but character development.